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Okay Ladies, Let’s Get In Formation

Okay Ladies Let's Get In Formation - The Free Woman

This blog post is specifically aimed for the sister’s up in here, the gal pals, the chicks, the ladies.

Since when was it cool to declare war over a girl you’ve never even met?

We aren’t enemies. We’re on the same team for crying out loud.

I’m going to bring in a quote from the woman of wonder, the lady I fan-girl over, my girl Beyoncé who said, “okay ladies, now let’s get in formation” at the half-time show of the SuperBowl 2016.

I repeat.

“Okay ladies, now let’s get in formation.”

It’s time we unite as women. It’s time we embrace our femininity and become a powerful and functional team.

But when it comes to being women of power, we sometimes get a little confused with how to play that part. Occasionally, we think that to be powerful, as a woman, we have to act manly, so we try to prove ourselves. We try to beat men, destroy them, humiliate them, or displace them to show that we are powerful.

We are called to be first class women, who are fearfully and wonderfully made. And we can’t do that if we are too busy running around being second-rate men.

But what if being powerful came from the simple act of embracing our femininity? By being powerfully, and passionately ourselves – the women we were created to be.

Being a girl isn’t just about the ‘eyebrows on fleek’, the ‘sugar and spice and all things nice and cutesy’, or the *hashtag* perfectly contoured cheekbones. Being a girl isn’t about being passive, whiny, or being a second-rate man. It’s about embracing ourselves.

The male chromosomes are XY. And when God made women, He pulled out the ‘X’ chromosome and raised it to the second power (XX or x^2 or X-squared). Therefore, we are powerful.

I’ve spoken to a few young girls who actually hate girls. They hate the stereotype of “girls gossip, girls manipulate, and girls fight all the time. Girls say things they don’t mean, and mean things they don’t say.” And let’s be real. It’s sometimes true. It’s a risky thing to say, but we’ve all experienced the girl who prances around thinking she’s the queen of the castle, and we’re all her dirty rascals. Here’s the truth: we are all royalty. We’re all queens of our own castles.

But because of the stereotype (mentioned above), sadly, some girls resent being a girl and hate other girls for it too.

It’s time we stop competing against our own team. It’s time we start supporting our fellow teammates, our gal pals – celebrating them in their victories, and reminding them of their value when they fail.

It’s time to get the girl gang hashtag out (#girlgang).

It’s time every girl works on what Beyoncé said (yes, I will quote her a third time). “Okay ladies, now let’s get in formation!”

Embracing our sisters, and embracing our femininity is the answer to being powerful and passionate women, who complement men, not compete with them.

"Embracing our femininity is the answer to being powerful and passionate women, who complement men, not compete with them." | thefreewoman.com

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  • Emmi Scott

    I love the message of women supporting other women and am glad that it’s being promoted here. But this post felt scattered an unfocused. Is it about women supporting each other or eradicating cattiness or fighting stereotypes or complementing men or being powerful women or embracing femininity? How do we embrace femininity? Although this post used a lot of words, its message was not strong because it was all over the place and didn’t dive into a strong message to say something new and meaningful. I hope that a stronger message on one or all of these topics will be shared here eventually.

    • Hi Emmi,

      Thanks for the great questions and sharing your thoughts! I completely see and understand where you’re coming from. This guest post is a little different to our usual posts. The main aim of it was to inspire and remind on all those topics. Had already been planning on zoning in on some of the topics it touched on for future posts though. Grateful for your response as it’s given me a lot to think about and confirmed some things :) Hope that helps!

      Much love,
      – Bethany, Founder of TFW