Honest Interviews

A Conversation With Molly About Being a Wholehearted Woman

Hi Molly! Tell us a bit about yourself and Wholehearted Woman.

The idea of Wholehearted Woman came to me late last year when 2016 U.S. Election was happening. Looking back now, I think I just needed an outlet – just like how a lot of other women needed (and still need) outlets – for every aspect of their life.

Things like mental health, body image, self-love, etc. have always been important to me. They’ve been a big part of my life. In the past few years, self-awareness and discovery have become extremely important to me – and a big part of my journey as well. So Wholehearted Woman is a documentation of that.

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You’re a huge advocate for storytelling, vulnerability, and honest conversations. Why do you think they are so important, and what positive impact have you seen in your own life as a result of adopting these practices?

Yes, I am! My first experience of this that impacted me in a really big way was attending a weekly support group for those struggling with depression and bipolar disorder. The meeting would start with each of us introducing ourselves and then we would break up into smaller groups to talk about what’s been happening in our lives lately, and it was just so refreshing how honest and vulnerable everyone was being with one another.

The biggest takeaway for me was realizing that when we’re honest and open with others about our stories and where we’ve been, it not only helps us – but it also helps them. It helps us because we release whatever we’ve been keeping inside. At the same time, it helps others because we create space for others and give them permission to share their stories with us.

"When we’re honest and open with others about our stories and where we’ve been, it not only helps us – but it also helps them." - Molly Ho | thefreewoman.comThe online space, especially Instagram and blogging, can at times cause comparison to bubble up within. How do you try to stay true to yourself on here?

Honestly, it’s been really hard. How have I been able to do it? I limit the amount of time I spend on Instagram. I also know what I see is not always what’s happening behind-the-scenes. I know how many shots it takes to get a selfie you like. I know how many retakes it takes to get a good video, so knowing these things helps keep me grounded and sane.

Also, I really love what Gary Vaynerchuk says about playing the long game. I don’t see this as a one or two year project. I see this as the rest of my life, and it’s only my first year. I have so much more to learn and room to grow. Who I am today may not be who I am five years from now, and that’s okay. I stay true to myself by knowing that I don’t have to have my whole life and identity figured out at this exact moment.

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What’s been the most rewarding aspect of the Wholehearted Woman journey so far?

Starting and continuing Wholehearted Woman has really helped me change and grow as a person.

Because of Wholehearted Woman, I had to learn how to be a more intentional action taker. How to be more kind, patient, and compassionate with myself. How to be really, really honest with myself. How to set healthier boundaries.

Also, it’s helping me become the woman I want to be, so that’s been really rewarding. I’m not sure if there’s been one definite moment – I’m just really enjoying the journey of it all.

A Conversation with Molly on Being a Wholehearted Woman | thefreewoman.com

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As an introvert, what has been, or continues to be, your greatest challenge {in life or business!}, and how do you seek to overcome it?

I’m not sure if this is true or not, but sometimes I feel like extroverts have an unlimited amount of energy that they never seem to run out of. I wish I had that, and sometimes, I try to (and then I burn myself out).

I struggle with self-care. It’s not that I don’t care about myself, but I actually just really enjoy working. I enjoy wearing many different hats, but taking care of myself is definitely not one of them.

Since I’m also (sometimes) a big fan of “putting yourself out of your comfort zone”. Something I’ve been trying to do a lot more of recently is meet new people, but I can only talk to so many people within a certain amount of time until I started feeling worn down (and that’s where the whole self-care or lack of, comes into play).

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What does being a Wholehearted Woman mean? And what are some ways we can seek to embody that?

The honest answer? I’m not entirely sure. Sometimes, I don’t even feel like a “wholehearted woman” myself because I’m so horrible at the self-care part.

But maybe being a wholehearted woman is just that. Embracing who you are, where you are. (But that also doesn’t mean just staying stagnant.) But y’know – embracing your whole self. Your mind, body, soul, and heart. Your dreams, goals, vision, etc. Your emotions, feelings, logic, etc.

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Who do you look to as an example and what characteristics do you admire in other women?

Danielle LaPorte, Glennon Doyle Melton, Elizabeth Gilbert, and Brené Brown.

What I absolutely LOVE about all these four women is how aware they are. Not only of themselves, but of the world around them. And they aren’t afraid to “get political” i.e. talk about basic human rights. As Danielle LaPorte says, we’re all global citizens and so we’re all accountable.

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You’re chatting over coffee with a feminine heart, what gem of wisdom would you share with her?

Listen to your intution. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it.

Don’t be afraid to put yourself first. To set healthy boundaries for yourself. Sometimes, you have to let go to save yourself.

Also, nothing is ever set in stone, so don’t worry. You can always change your mind. About anything. About everything.

Embrace who you are, where you are. - Molly Ho | thefreewoman.com


{quick favourites}

Song | I’m Not The Only One, by Sam Smith

Quote | “For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.” – Benjamin Button

Instagram | @aml18, @jennakutcher, @pegactive, @madelinerosephoto – so many, I couldn’t just pick one!

Go-to cafe order | Cold brew

Early bird or night owl | Night owl


Molly is the founder of Wholehearted Woman. A space for honest and messy conversations to happen, because everyone has a story to tell and a life lesson to share. As an introvert, storyteller, and pizza lover, she’s a huge advocate for vulnerability, self-empowerment, and listening to your intuition.

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